I have a confession to make.
All these basic tips and posts of ways to get your baby to sleep better, are only best-case scenarios.
Every book you’ll read is selling you a dream… Because the idea that there’s a magical way to make your baby sleep uninterrupted all night is a sham.
I’m not being pessimistic! I assure you, I’m perfectly happy now that I’ve accepted that my little guy wakes up at least 3 to 4 times a night. That’s just who he is: a very intense, spirited child.
Some will say that I’ve created my own little monster. Yes, I have. Don’t we all? And I LOVE my little monster.
So here’s a review of my baby’s sleep progress in one line: it’s better but not perfect. I doubt it ever will be.
A few basic tips like
do help considerably. Without these rituals, it would be a million times worse.
And we’ve outgrown other steps, like the Transfer (part 1, 2, and 3). Those tips were useful when he was very little. Nowadays, I can pretty much roll him out of my arms and he’s used to flipping on his tummy to fall asleep.
But mostly, it’s a work in progress… Like staying asleep, or falling back to sleep without my help. Since I’m pretty categorical about not letting him cry it out, I’ll just have to patiently continue rocking or breastfeeding him back to sleep. I pass no judgement on others who have “ferberized”, as long as they don’t judge me for using the boob or for co-sleeping.
So, hang it all to heck! Here’s another basic tip: Just do the best you can. Do whatever works for your family. Politely nod your head to anyone who has advice about your sleep issues, ask them to pass the guacamole, and carry on.
And if you can’t stand it any longer, make a plan and change it.
I’ve made my bed (harty-har-har) and I’m fine sleeping in it.