When they start fussing, it’s very important to remain calm. The baby will sense this and calm down too… eventually.
Easier said than done, right? So when your baby is screaming at the top of his lungs, and you’re sure the neighbors are criticizing your parenting skills, remember these basic points:
- If your baby could talk, he’d tell you what’s wrong. But he can’t talk, so he cries. That’s all there is to it. His crying does not mean you’re a bad parent. He’s trying to communicate a need, and your job is to find out what’s wrong. Hungry, dirty diaper, tired, too hot, too cold, scared… or maybe he just wants to snuggle with you. Calmly figure out what’s wrong, then fix it.
- Show your baby that you sympathize. Talk to him. Tell him that you understand he’s unhappy and that you’ll figure out what’s wrong. Hearing your voice, and sensing your confidence, will calm him down.
- When you’ve figured out what’s wrong and your baby has stopped crying, give yourself a pat on the shoulder. And tell your baby how happy you are that everything is better. Happiness is contagious.